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Adoption Options is a metro Denver-based adoption agency (serving the entire state of Colorado). Our staff can answer all the questions you may have about the Colorado adoption process.
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I’m pregnant and scared, and I’m not sure what to do.
We understand this is an overwhelming time for you, but you do have options. Depending on the stage of your pregnancy, the choices you have include termination of the pregnancy, choosing to parent, or developing a plan for adoption. Your family and friends will either be supportive or not. This may be confusing while you’re trying to figure out what’s best for you and your unborn child, but with some counseling you may find it easier to decide. There are caring and kind counselors available to assist you in making this life-altering decision.
If I am thinking of adoption, what do I need to do?
The first step is to find a licensed adoption agency you feel comfortable working with. There are lots of adoption agencies, but you need to find one that is ethical, caring, sensitive, professional, and meets your needs. In Colorado, birth parents are required to receive relinquishment counseling, which can be very helpful in your time of need. Adoption Options has 31 years of experience working with individuals like you who are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy.
What does the counseling include?
First of all, there’s no charge for this counseling. You will meet with an empathetic and knowledgeable counselor who will help you create the best plan for you and your baby. By law, counseling includes motivation for relinquishment, the finality of your decision, grief and loss, and future plans. Your counselor will also be open to exploring other issues you may wish to discuss.
What about the birth father?
Birth fathers have legal rights. They are entitled to counseling to explore their options, and we do offer it to them. Sometimes the situation with the birth father is complicated, emotional, or threatening and you may be worried about how to deal with this. There are occasions where a birth father may deny paternity, there may be more than one possible birth father, or the birth father may not cooperate with an adoption plan. These problems can often be worked out with the counselor, who is experienced in such cases.
My family’s unhappy about my adoption plan. Can they get counseling as well?
Yes. There are a lot of misconceptions about adoption and families need complete information to better understand the decision you’re making. If your family is open to receiving information and counseling, this can be made available to them. Remember, though, the decision to relinquish or not is yours, not your family’s.
Can I get any financial help?
Yes. Often pregnant women find themselves struggling financially. We don’t want the financial burden to be the only factor in a decision to relinquish. In Colorado, you may be able to receive pregnancy-related expenses including rent, food, maternity clothes, and medical costs. Counselors can help you learn about the state benefits you may be eligible to receive.
What happens when my baby is born?
Your baby can be placed in our loving cradle care program before you relinquish your parental rights, or may be placed directly with an adoptive family. The decision is yours based on your feelings at the time you give birth.
How are adoptive families approved?
All families go through an extensive assessment and education process. Criminal background and reference checks are undertaken, and the families are interviewed many times – both separately and together. It is only after all these steps have been completed that families are approved to adopt a child at Adoption Options.
Do I have a choice of adoptive families?
Yes. Most agencies have more adoptive families than birth families. Adoption Options has a wide range of approved families waiting to adopt who will accept a child of any ethnic background or with a variety of special needs. You will be able to meet the family if you wish to do so, and, ultimately, choose an adoptive family that meets your needs and the needs of your baby.
Will an adoptive family love my baby as much as I do?
Most adoptive families have been waiting a long time to have a baby placed in their arms and tell us they couldn’t love the child more if he/she had been born to them.
Will the adoptive family tell the child about me?
There are no guarantees; however, most children grow up knowing they are adopted. Adoptive parents are aware of the importance of sharing the adoption story with their child, and this will most likely include information about you.
Will I regret this forever? Will I ever get over the loss?
You will never forget the decision you make for you and your baby. However, grieving is a healing process. Through the emotional ups and downs, over time you will find yourself moving forward and moving on. Even though you will mourn your loss, you may be comforted in knowing you did what was best for your child and were the loving parent he or she needed and deserved. At Adoption Options, there are support groups with other relinquishing parents, as well as ongoing individual counseling and support as you need it.
What is “open” adoption?
Open adoption can range from totally open, with full identities shared, to almost closed, where you choose not to receive any information about the adoptive family. Birth parents can choose the level of openness that works for them. Many birth parents choose a semi-open adoption, where non-identifying information is shared and communication between you and the adoptive family is through the agency. The level of openness can increase or decrease over time as relationships between birth parents and adoptive parents grow.
What is relinquishment?
Relinquishment is when birth parents voluntarily give up their legal parental rights and responsibilities, enabling their child to be adopted. Following counseling, relinquishment is a legal process that is completed through the court. You may or may not be required to attend court, depending on the decision of the judge.